October 2017

There is no doubt that Anne continues to be going through a good period. Her incontinence remains very infrequent, she is more cooperative when getting her dressed and undressed, has a healthy appetite, and remains very happy.

I did wonder if someone with Alzheimer's could go into remission, but my research shows that this is not the case.

If there was one element of deterioration it would be in her verbal ability. The last few weeks have seen a decline in her speaking. Now, for most of the time, she says nothing, although I can usually determine what her body language means.

We had the pleasure of going on a week's holiday with family, and Anne coped very well with her new surroundings, as well as having two young grandchildren around her. I was constantly moved by the reaction of the children. At 7 and 3.5 years, it was remarkable to observe the compassion they demonstrated towards Anne. Somehow they understood (and accepted) that their Grandma doesn't speak, needs help with eating, wears "nappies", needs help to get out the car, doesn't help with domestic chores, and doesn't demonstrate affection to them. It truly was a joy to watch.

And the good thing about going on holiday with others is that I get to be on holiday!

This month we were invited to a wedding and after much thought I declined the invitation for us both, as I felt that Anne would struggle, but decided that I would go along for the evening reception. This was the first time that I had experienced this situation and I found it difficult. I am normally a confident individual, but that confidence evaporated when I arrived. I didn't know many people and watching couples and groups of people enjoying each others company proved an uneasy situation for me - perhaps a sign of things to come.

And next month could be a challenge. I am abroad for a week with a charity I support and so Anne is going to be staying with her sister and our brother-in-law. I feel confident that I will be fine, but I do wonder how Anne will react when she realises I am not around. This could be further exacerbated by a short trial stay in a local care home to see how she reacts to respite care. While Anne enjoys others company, I am a bit worried that this period of apparent "respite" from the manifestations of Alzheimer's disease may come to an end because of me not being there for her. Time will tell.

Until next month.....

aye

Gordon